When i used to sdy with my relatives in der house .
I had to work (that's okay to help)
All the unwanted mistakes used to come on my head.
Becoz of her my son couldn't sleep, becoz of her this happened , telling people on call she is just useless , despite helping her all days and blaming me😠.
I m literally cry on these stuff each and every night and if by chance any same incident is recalled with my mom ,it reminds me of my relatives what she did n to me and
Idk what to do .
I m really tired becoz she never scolded her son, she ll scold me becoz i haven't done anything . Once i had exam i was studying and she called me to come down to take the stuff and my cousin brother was free n i told him , she got pissed on me becoz i didnt go why ? Becoz i m studying . How can somebody can do this . Then after doing things correct still she complains abt me to others😠. Anything is wrong with her she ll blast on me , like go from here, becoz of u this is happening how can u blame a person like that ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ i cant tell my mom she ll cry n i dont want thatðŸ˜
Thank you for sharing, Kolambi. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation. Many people don’t know how to manage their own emotions, so they take their sadness, frustration, etc. out on other people. It sounds like you may be that emotional outlet for her. Know that you aren’t doing anything wrong. Her emotions aren’t for you to fix. But what you Can do is yourself a few questions.
Do I need to live here? If I do, how to I best take care of myself and my emotions during this challenging time? Are there different boundaries that I need to se with my family members? Do I need to adjust my expectations of my family? Are there people I trust that I can ask for help and support?
Addressing these questions will help you to start to take steps forward, whether that’s changing your living situation, setting healthy boundaries and expectations or getting better support to navigate all this.
Sending lots of love...