GIRL TALK RADIO
MENTAL HEALTH BAROMETER
Thank you for sharing, Tanishka. You clearly have strong feelings for a man that is already married and committed to another person - those are tricky waters to navigate that typically come with a lot of disappointment. In these kinds of situations, someone always gets hurt.
Instead of focusing on getting more of this man's attention, I'd encourage you to spend some time reflecting on your own wants and needs. What does a healthy relationship look like to you? What expectations do you have? What do your boundaries look like? What does respect mean to you? How do you cultivate reciprocity in a relationship? Write these answers down on paper, and read through them every day. Soak in consciously your own relationship needs and expectations.
It's so very hard to be in a relationship that isn't going the way you hoped - especially with a person that's already in a committed relationship. But by taking a step back, evaluating what you want and need, and establishing healthy relationship boundaries and expectations, you'll be better able to determine if this is the right relationship for you. And from there, you can communicate those needs and expectations to this man. If he cannot meet those needs and expectations, you must respect yourself enough to leave (because no relationship is worth your dignity and self-respect).
Someone that truly loves you will see you as an equal partner, diligently respecting your needs, expectations and boundaries. He will build a life with you - his actions aligned to his words. If he can't do that, then he doesn't actually love you.
Sending you all kinds of love as you figure all this out. It certainly isn't easy asking ourselves these kinds of hard questions. But it's a lot easier than spending years of our lives in relationship limbo, with a man that has no intention of truly loving us.